For the last 7 years I have been a typical underemployed military spouse. For the last 5 years my ability to get a job has been limited by the fact that my pay must overcome childcare costs.
I once had a full time teaching job at a 2 year college. Then, we moved overseas to Japan. The first two years I did work part time, between 15 and 25 hours a week at one and then two jobs. One of those jobs was the most fun I have had as an educator. I taught English to high school students at Japanese public high schools. It was a blast to go and share my language and country and in return learn about theirs. It was great to experience being out in Japan all day, even when my husband was away and I missed hearing people talk in English by the end of the day. My salary was in yen and that became our spending money. My eventual second job was an adjunct teaching job on base, good for my resume, nice and interesting group of students with most of them active duty military or military dependents, but adjunct pay is never great.
The other nice thing about that adjunct job is because we stayed in Japan the next move it was able to move with me. So, it become my first job after having my daughter. Again, something for the resume, an interesting mix of students and good experience for working after baby. Luckily it was also a late afternoon/evening job and thus my husband, who was usually around, could provide most of the childcare. Then, we moved again.
Back in the states I found an online tutoring job. I’ve done that for the last 3 1/2 years. The pay is not great, and it ends up only being a few hours I can work per week, but it is something I can do without paying a babysitter, or needing my husband to be present to watch kids. It is also teaching and there are times I love being able to help a student understand a concept, reminding me why I love being an educator.
I also for a year and a half did volunteer work with an officer spouse club. It was quarterly, so not busy for a month or so, then part time work and then basically a full time job for about two weeks. It was worthwhile work that helped fund the club and aid in their scholarships and charity work. One of those things that I had to be reminded I should include on my resume as it was work, just not the paid with money kind of work.
Recently I have been hired as an adjunct at a local 2-year college. It’s great to be back in the classroom and in front of students. Most of the hours are night, and my husband is around to watch the kids. This helps to make the small pay I get more worth it. Again, good for the resume, hopefully I can make a more recent reference from it, although hard to do since working nights I see few other faculty.
Could I get a full time job? I have a graduate degree in biology and a decade or more of experience teaching in some fashion. Even without an actual teaching degree most states have ways I could work towards a teaching certificate to teach at secondary school. The pay would likely make up for childcare costs for two kids, and next year I have only one child needing full time childcare. Of course, with military life I also have no clue where we might be next year.
Realities of employment after kids and as a military spouse
Good childcare is expensive, especially all day care or care for children under 2 years of age. It can also be hard to find. I’m glad I did not have to pay a sitter to watch my children for my current job. I have seen studies on people choosing to be stay at home parents because of those costs of childcare. When you are the secondary income in a family and most of your income may end up going towards just childcare, I completely understand the idea of just not working. As is, my working nights does cut down on my time with my husband so I can work more affordably.
Military spouses are woefully unemployed or underemployed. Recent stats I’ve seen is that military spouse unemployment is almost 25%, while the national average is currently at 4%. And that is of those who would want to be employed, most do want that but the reality of their situation has not allowed it. They keep doing studies on this, even if just about any military spouses knows it’s true and big and a problem. It takes an average of 6 months to get a new job. Usually we do not have 6 months notice where we are going next, or we have a strong idea but not solid proof until a month or so before, and sometimes it is just weeks before we know or plans change last minute. And there is that move to contend with while looking for new employment. Then if you do find a job you must find childcare that is good, reasonably priced, allows early and late hours if you are doing the solo parenting thing, and all that possibly last minute. Rarely are you going to have any family or possibly even friends at a new location to help out. We may then only live in one location for 2 to 4 years, sometimes less. I imagine in a military area, like I currently live, it is pretty obvious on a job application if someone is associated with the military and may be a transient hire. My resume shows that within the last 10 years I have lived in 5 places and have been employed by 4 different companies with gaps of months in between employment.
I am glad that my husband makes enough that we can get by on just his income. I am glad that I have been able to work at least part-time the last several years and at least contribute some to our family finances. And I am glad that much of my day involves helping my 5 year old with crafts, or watching my toddler do random toddler crazy.
Link to the most recent “well duh” article researching military spouses that includes employment info.