I am not much for budgets and really managing money. I am, however, frugal and a fan of not wasting a bunch of extra money on children. (Because let’s be honest, we waste a lot of money on children, a lot.) So, some tips I have found useful for buying items, and have been using for buying things for baby #2.
1) The only new things you need to purchase are car seats and breast pumps.
Car seats have very clear and important expiration dates. Plus, technology is always changing. So it is best to spend the big bucks for a brand new car seat. Look around though, because there are ways to buy “all in ones”, or “3 in 1s” if you want a separate infant seat that you can take out of the car. Also, you need not buy the most expensive brands. Mid-value brands are just as good. We own several Graco and Safety First car seats that we really like. These are also good for multiple kids as long as they are not expired. My kids are almost 4 years apart, but the infant car seat we bought four and a half years ago is still under warranty and being used. Gonna be a good $150 for car safety for two kids before we get rid of it.
A breast pump if you are breastfeeding is very useful. It’s a requirement if you want to work outside the home. But, I had to use a pump to get in my supply in the beginning for both my children. You can find these for sale used, in fact the pump I used for my daughter came very slightly used from a friend. However, something I have found out after, unless it is a closed system pump you should not buy used. An open system pump means that a bit of someone else’s breastmilk gets into the pumping machinery. You can change the tubes, but not completely clean the inner workings of the pump itself. Medela, the most common pump on the market, is an open system pump. There are still ways to save money here. Some insurances now cover the cost of a breastpump, Tricare my insurance does this. You can also rent a hospital grade pump, which is a closed system, in case you are not sure you will be breastfeeding or need a pump yet, and thus not waste money on something you will not use.
2) Resist the cute clothing.
Much easier said than done, because all the little clothing is oh so cute. I have bought a few items for my son, but have likely spent under $20 total so far in clothing for him. In truth, they will grow out of it so fast and the resale money you will get back for baby clothing is so little.
If you do end up having to buy clothing you can always find the same almost new items for under $2 at thrift stores, consignment stores and garage sales. And going garage sale prices for baby clothing is closer to 50 cents or $1 per item.
Otherwise, you are likely to get given clothing and clothing and more clothing than you need. Friends are often very willing to give you clothes just to declutter their own homes, especially if you know someone who is done with kids, or has a baby who is your baby’s gender and the older child is the opposite. Part of this, is those tiny clothes are well loved even if little worn and friends like to see them go to someone they know will love them the same. I may have saved some of my daughter’s really cute items for that possible child my youngest sister-in-law might get to, and I may be mailing off beloved OSU (okstate) baby girl gear to a fellow friend alumni who I know will love it as much as we did.
It is hard to resist the cute clothing, which means family will still buy you things. Make sure to let them know correct sizes and desired clothing, or even better needed clothing. People love to buy for babies and grandparents, aunts and uncles usually like to be able to do so, especially when they know you will love and use it. So, if they want to anyway let them spend their money instead of you spending yours. Little guy might now have three sets of wardrobes in his next size between gender neutral items I saved from my daughter, used clothing from friends, and then new gifted clothing like the four new sleepers from grandma this Christmas. The sleepers while not needed, are what I’m trying to mainly dress little guy in for ease, and they are all zippered ones, so exactly what I wanted and will be used.
All of this said, sometimes there just really is an item you want to buy, so buy it. Sometimes you find something on a sale or discount that is almost the price of used. And sometimes there is an item you just really want to buy. I bought a 3 month sleeper that said “Little Brother” from my guy as I really wanted it and couldn’t find one used. Clothes are relatively as baby things go cheap, so not being able to resist sometimes happens.
3) Buy larger items used and on sale and resell after using.
Except for those items you should buy new, everything else buying used in good condition is a great way to save money. In general babies and even toddlers go through equipment and larger toys fast. They are high price items that while sometimes almost necessary don’t see enough use for their cost. This includes things like pack-n-plays, bassinets, strollers, swings, bouncers, playmats, jumpers, etc. With my daughter we got many of these items as gifts from our registry and really it’s one way to go for a first baby. I sold a lot of the bigger equipment and have bought used or on sale for my son and plan to continue that.
Buying used is not hard to do for bigger items from consignment stores, resale sites and groups and garage sales. I will say, I can get a bit obsessive with checking local resale facebook groups when I’m really in a mode to buy something. I have a good idea of what I want and the price I want to pay. In general that price is 20 or 30% of the original price, which I find out online. The thinking is to pay about what I will resell for later, meaning I’m renting the item for a bit instead of actually buying it. I did this with the baby swing I got my son. I found one for $30 that plugs in and is mid-range in style. I’m glad I bought it used as he’s really not been a fan of it (my daughter LOVED her swing), so now when I resell I should be able to get $30 or at least $25 back. One note on buying used is to buy in good condition and make sure it is not too old or too used. No drop side cribs as they are dangerous. Nothing that’s 10 years old and likely expired and no longer safe. This can be difficult to tell, just be reasonable about what you do buy used.
Buying on sale is also an option. For a few big price items I wanted a specific thing, either a specific brand like the sit and stand stroller I got, or specific features like the bassinet pack-n-play I got. I looked for used and could not find either. I had used amazon to find what I wanted and kept a look on the prices with a wish list. By doing this I was able to get both on sale at almost half off the normal price. Meaning I paid more than I would have used, but will be able to get a greater amount of that cost back when I resell. Sometimes you can find deals on last year’s items, or deals during certain times of the year. I bought a winter cover for a baby carrier for my daughter cheap because I bought it during the summer. And sometimes you have to be flexible, like not caring about the color or style, or having a few items and buying the one on sale.
4) Not wasting money on toys.
About as hard to resist as clothing is toys as a child gets older. Toys also end up being the bulk of all that clutter in my house. This is likely the one I am worst about as I often see the money being better spent than say on clothing.
I buy used toys when able. Especially for baby and toddler toys they tend to be plastic, so cleanable, and designed to take a beating and thus not broken by a single owner. Again, you can look at deals and save them for later. Or go looking specifically and hope you find something you need now. I have given used toys as gifts. Really, my daughter is 4 and she can’t tell or care if the toy is new or used once out of a package. Remember that bigger kids also have big toy items that are always cheaper used. We have a play kitchen, art aisle and balance bike that were all bought used for much less of the full cost.
Buy on sale when possible. Especially if you can look year round there are some good deals to be had on sales or at discount stores like Ross Dress for Less. One of my sister-in-laws is a master at this and while she gives my kids great toys and often too many of them, I know she’s usually gotten them at steals of prices. Amazon wish lists and seasonal sales are good for this. Just be careful you don’t buy lots of an item a child might like now, but be past enjoying once it is given as a gift.
Ask people for needed toys as gifts for birthdays and holidays. Again, grandparents, aunts and uncles can be great sources of buying the toys you want if you help direct them in what the child likes, needs or would play with. Almost half of my daughter’s toys have been gotten this way.
Note, it can be hard for fall and winter birthday children since they get their gifts more clustered. I’ve taken to using Easter as a time to give a few extra smaller toys she needs but won’t have another gift time until late October. Also, sometimes you do just have to buy the new toy your child wants for a birthday or holiday.
This is what I have learned so far. I’m sure I will learn more as my kids age. As people buy them less clothing and they get even pickier about what they want to wear. As they get old enough to want that trending toy and as their toys get more electronic and expensive. But, these are the tips and tricks I know so far.